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Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Thoughts on Victimization, Justice and Forgiveness

Like many, I've followed the story of Chris Williams and his ability to forgive the drunk, teenage driver that killed his pregnant wife and two of his children. It is an amazing, and inspiring, story of forgiveness. Eventually a Mormon Messages video was made about the story. See it below.


A follow-up article entitled, "A year of forgiveness" provides a great deal more on this story. Recently, Chris Williams published a book on this experience entitled, Let It Go.

My posting today is simply a paragraph from that article in the Deseret News. Ron Yengich is an attorney and person I admire. He's smart and competent, perhaps in the extreme, but he tells it like it is.

Society isn't always very helpful, Yengich says. "What we teach in America is: Once you've been victimized, maintain your victimhood forever, at all costs, and use that as an excuse for whatever happens to you in the future." As for our feelings about perpetrators, he says, "our idea of justice is fairly simple: once we've got our foot on someone's neck, justice for us is to press down as hard and as long as we can."
Although accurate, his descriptions are not particularly flattering. Spend at least a few minutes today considering how his descriptions fit you and then take a leaf out of Chris Williams book and consider how you can change.

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